Tolerance

No one's life is perferct from the day of birth till the day of death. Everyone faces difficulties, problems, conflicts, downturns and various sorts of obsacles in life. These obstacles are the ones that help us grow and improve, making us a better person to face the world. However, it is also important that we know the way to deal with the obstacle effectively without hurting ourselves and others too.

Family matters. Being born in a big family, it is difficult to not face any conflicts between one another, UNLESS, all of the family members do not talk! In a book named "You can heal your life" written by Louise Hay (OK, not Louis Koo XP), it is stated that we choose our parents. The lessons that we learn are actually strength and weaknesses of our parents. We learn that particular lessons for out spiritual evolution. So if you have had an argument or a fight with your parents or other family members, don't blame them, because blaming them is equal to blaming ourselves who have made that decision of being born in our family.

Sometimes, a simple event or incident might eventually burst into a big serious argument or fight. This might be due to a wrong way of structuring our words. For example, in order to ask our siblings to be quiet, one might say "SHUT UP!", but one can also say "can you please lower down your volume?". They both mean the same, which is to order another person to be quiet, but the attitudes portrayed are different. And if another party could not stand that attitude, there it goes... BOMB! >.< So, try to restructure words into a nice order to avoid uneccessary unhappiness. Tolerate with one another to result in a win-win situation.

My words for you, yea, both of you:

I know that this is a BIG issue for both of you, but just don't blame each other about whose fault was it. Accept it and fight for the right, TOGETHER. Unity is strength! Don't let outside things affect the proximate relationship between both of you. Although it's just seen as an argument, but apart from both of you, it may affect third parties as well, especially the younger ones. You wouldn't want them to see you unhappy or immitate your actions in future right? So no matter what happens, don't say something that you know will end up in a BIG argument. Try to begin or continue the conversation with love and care, and not with the mindset that "I have to win!". I really don't hope to see the down and unhappy emotions on both of your faces. That's not family, but enemies. Time will heal it, but both of you must also do something to solve the issue. Although i can't help solve that problem, but i will always be here to support!
Loves~