A few weeks back, me n my frens went 2 monash university 2 gather som info bout d courses available 4 nx yr. Apparently, 1 of my fren was tryin 2 b realistic 2 me n i really felt demotivated....... my mood was down n i cant concentr8 while drvin hom. I kno my facial expression wasn't happy at all but i was juz tryin 2 hide it so tat mum won't notice bout it. N 4 tat, i sms-ed another fren of mine 2 say tat i was sad. I thk she showed it 2 him. N he sms-ed me tis:
"Uh just wanna say i'm sry if i offended u juz nw. Sorry. I kno tat tis sry doesn't mean anythg but... i juz wanna say, sorry. *regret 4 wat i've said*"
OK, an apologise sms. But at tat point of time, i was really 2 depressed n i coudn't really accept tis! U kno, when ur upset bout sthg, nthg can go in2 ur mind n all ur tots wil b negative. So, yea, v "cold war" 4 a couple of days. Not even a word or a "hi" in college.
After a few days, i saw a stack of cards, "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind Cards" by T. Harv Eker, n it interests me a LOT (coz i m a money lover!). N i read 2 of d cards:
"Rich people take advice from people who are richer than they are. Poor people take advice from their friends, who are just as broke as they are."
AND
"If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a nonsupportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to prove yourself, your money will never bring you happiness. Practice coming from purpose and joy."
Hmm... I thought tat tis could b related 2 d situation i was in. Yea, these 2 quote hv certainly opened my mind. D 1st quote, sayin tat don take advices fr ppl whose thought n belief r diff fr u seriously bcoz it wil nt suit ur thking. While 4 d 2nd quote, don do sthg 2 prove how smart or how gd u r 2 others, but do it with joy. N d last thg, don b EGO. Previously, i hv 2 admit tat i was a bit 2 ego, bcoz in d 1st place, y shld i b d one 2 stat talkin?! he's wrong, so he shld b d initiator 2 stat talkin! ergh. N 4 tat, i could not concentr8 in my studies as d problem is not solved yet n i don feel comfortable with it...
Anyway, i started an on9 conversation n said tat i've decided 2 4giv him. N he said... ok?
D nx morning, me n mum went 4 breakfast n v were listening 2 lite fm. As i've said previously, d topic 4 discussion 4 d day was "Is it easy 2 4giv n 4get". N i remembered tat d psychologist said tat 2 4giv n 4get requires cooperation n negotiation between 2 parties, if 1 party has decided 2 4giv but d other party canot feel 4given, thn d conflict wil remain as a conflict. Wat an interesting fact. It not only involve 1 party 2 4giv d other 1, but d other party must also play a part 2 feel 4given. So, when i got back home, i started another on9 conversation with him again n ask him bout it. LOL. N...... everythg is over~~ =) I felt extraordinary happy tat day, coz all conflicts n problems r solved! It's like letting go a heavy stone fr my heart n i felt relieved! =]
Fr d whole situation, i feel tat God is treating me well. He knows when is d rite time 2 appear n help me. He knows i m struggling with tat problem, so he arranged a topic on d radio, he arranged mum 2 go out 4 br8fast with me so tat i could listen 2 d radio, he arranged a courage 4 me 2 solve tat problem, N tat problem is now solved! Thank God! =)
Tis is a pretty gd experience 4 me bcoz it helps me realise tat although somtimes v may face problems or obstacles when somthg else is on, but all v need 2 do is juz 2 b relaxed n thk of a solution. 4giv n 4get is certainly not an easy thg 2 do, but v must try our best 2 4giv som1 who has upset us so tat v could also feel better in life. ^_^
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